the bf "headache"

last SG · 2003-01-08T13:15:48+00:00

i will nv get use to this! anyhow, my bf has actually on meetin my frds. at least that is what he said. next i'm gonna make sure he do it. ha

Spider SG

i wonder if you have this pro too?
bf refusin to meet ur frds?!!

my bf just refuses to meet my frds! he said he didnt like them or in a better way he doesnt feel comfortable sittin with them. or whatsoever he explained! i guess i will have to understand that. b'coz i feel the same way too.

but i still think it will be better for both to accept each other's frds and of coz the family members! ironic indeed!! what do you think? Mr. Green

misswho SG

I think Guys are born to be like that huh? Sometimes I got to drag my bf to join my frens too..... sickening... Neutral

jOhO SG

"force" him with "soft" techniques.. Wink Wink

SandSpider SG

I guess it's cos he's afraid that he will be left out when you talk to your friends cos guys trying to fit into girl talk is like trying to fix a square into a circle. Or maybe he is embaressed because he is meeting a big group of strangers. Give him some time and encourage him. Gradually he'll fit into your group of friends. Wink

Spider SG

hey thanks ppl

by the way, what soft techniques?! Embarassed

frds that i wanna my bf to meet are ppl from our former school so that also means they do know each other already. sometimes, i hope he can just be a little more carin to come with me. i guess i will just have to bear with it huh.

Mr. Green

Yunhaier SG

Scorpio, Taurus, Aquarius and possible Leo. Twisted Evil

irage SG

Yo, laides,
I have problem getting my gf to meet my friend too. even if I want to join her and her friend. she also dun like. if her or what...eventually have tiff on this so many time.

kopiosatu SG

Scorpios are NT social???
OMG, i'm nt social! Shocked

sgboy2004 SG

Try by going out on double dates…so that he will not overwhelmed by your “gal” friends.

www SG

hahahha. as a matter of fact, i used to like that as well and i thought it's pretty selfish.

i believe it is basically due to lack of confidence that one will feel at ease mixing among a group of strangers. not to mention if one assumes inferiority of his/her socialising skills.

as a gf or bf of such person, i think the trick here is to give him or her the assurance that you will be with him/her throughout the entire session.

having that said, it means you shouldnt leave him/her alone with a group of your friends and go gossiping in another corner.

after doing this for a couple of times, i believe everything will work out fine.

however, if he/she is not what i mentioned above (lack of confidence and socialising skill), he/she probably dont like you that much, let alone wanting to know your friends. Razz

Spider SG

Originally posted by www:

however, if he/she is not what i mentioned above (lack of confidence and socialising skill), he/she probably dont like you that much, let alone wanting to know your friends. Razz

oh no! i sure hope i'm not in this cateogy!! Shocked

sgboy2004 SG

how long hav both of u been together?

frou SG

life like that Mr. Green

Mozzy SG

Be the one that blends in, meet up wif his/her frens if he/she requests, and do likewise if u wants.
otherwise dun meet wif each others' circle lor.
but if u really want, tempt him/her wif news/gossips/etc of what's happening in ur group, he/she might(its might, not definitely) initiate one day.

Anyway otherway, up down, left, right, i dun care.
but if u show me u can last.
i will give u all the blessings i can and afford to give.
Very Happy

Yunhaier SG

No lar not *not sociable* rather their fixed aspect hinders their initiative and wanting to do something. Twisted Evil

Spider SG

we have been together for 4 plus yrs already. but have been separated for a yr and da half. Mr. Green

www SG

hahhaa. i hope so too. but at times, people are too emotionally blinded, they cant tell the differences.

www SG

hey boss, dont see you around for quite a while.

Mozzy SG

lol who's the boss?? Shocked
one sentence - busy wif work...
Mr. Green

Spider SG

i guess you are right. most of the time ppl cant tell the differences!!! which is really bad! Sad